Wives underestimate the impact they have, both for good and ill. They do not realize that their lack of respect is tearing their husbands down. The more they disrespect, the more they see to criticize. Soon it seems there is nothing respectable about their husbands at all.
They want their husbands to be obedient Christians who exercise godly, loving headship, but they refuse to be respectful wives. “I will begin to respect him when he starts exercising spiritual leadership!” But God had commanded wives to respect and honor their husbands, with no qualification. he does not say to respect them if… Nancy Wilson from The Fruit of Her Hands
How do you show respect to your husband even when it’s hard?
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I have made so many mistakes in my 25 years of marriage but have learned a few things. One thing I do to show respect, even when I don’t feel it, is to pray for him and the decisions he is making. And, I tell him I am praying for him.
Shanda, YES! I think this is the single most important thing we can do… pray! Prayer is SO powerful and it allows us to step out of the way, so HE can step in!
Awesome post!! Totally love it! A lot of women nowdays snicker at stuff like this, it’s sad. Marriages would be much happier and more fulfilled if Christian couples just obeyed His Word. It’s not always easy or fun, but it’s not complicated and the blessings that ensue are so worth it! And it’s not even just the blessings, your spouse is worth it!
Juliana, so very true! I think we so often fail to remember that HIS blessings come through obeying HIS word!!! You are SO right – our spouses are WORTH it!
I find that if I allow it I can be respectful of my husband on the outside but allow a disrespectful dialog to go on in my head. Even if he were to never know my God knows and He is the one who commanded me to be respectful of my husband. It is something that I must really guard against but I realized that the way to stop the dialog is to think respectful thoughts. This reinforces my being respectful to my husband amd I am so blessed.
Ohhhh Lana – good one! And yes, so true. Actions on the outside are respectful but on the inside, not so much. Yes! Thinking respectful thoughts – so important. God knows our heart and while he does honor our actions, our hearts are the ultimate motivation behind everything. Great thoughts!!!
I love this post. Nothing makes me crazier than “man-bashing”. My brother-in-law married a wonderful Christian woman. I see what her constant encouragement and respect did (and still does) to build him into an amazing Christian man who is well-respected by his church and his students. I try to follow that example with my husband. If we treat our husbands like kings, they will treat us like queens in return.
“If we treat our husbands like kings, they will treat us like queens in return.” YES!!! This is so true. Yeah for your BIL’s wife! What a wonderful Titus 2 example she is!!!
When I was married, it was hard to have a lot of respect for my husband after the glamour of being married wore off. But I did try and find the good, and never nagged on his faults in front of the kids. It taught me patience, and looking for the good in a bad situation.
I know those days Mariti… the hard ones! I love that you worked on not nagging in front of the kids – I think that is so important. And patience.. yes… it certainly does teach you patience!
Sometimes easy and sometimes hard. Working on it day by day. Thanks for linking up to the NOBH!
Christine, yes – easy and hard days … that’s for sure…. it is a daily “working out”!!!
Such a hard question! I’m a work in progress. I completely get that I need to respect my husband whether or not I agree with him or like him in that moment. It’s truly a step of faith “in God” that gets me to the altar of respecting my husband. I’m getting there but have a long way to go!
Yes, I know what you mean about being a “work in progress”. That is SO me!!! I don’t know that I’ll ever get it completely right on this side of eternity!
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